Maybe this saves someone a lot of time..
after half a day of try-and-fail I finally did it! and it's actually quite easy
I wasn't able to install 32bit msaccess for some reason, no matter how hard I was trying.
so
Need to install
BOTH ODBC 32bit AND 64bit driver:
https://downloads.mysql.com/archives/c-odbc/ - use version 8.0.32 as it has both 32 AND 64 bit. (you will need visual c++ redistributable for 32bit version)
When installing 64bit - ignore the error
then set up ODBC connection via 32bit app: \Windows\SysWOW64\odbcad32.exe
then that's it. works with msaccess 64 bit as a charm!